Just thought I would put my two penneth worth in? (Have I spelt that right??? Not sure!!
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We have a 15 yr old boy and when we came over to France he was 12, not a great age I hear people whisper - very difficult age, diffcult because of the langauge, etc, etc and yes it was extremely difficult for him, but one of the major reasons for leaving was that I was very worried about what he was doing, where he was going, etc in the UK. I wasn't worried per se about him being a trouble maker really but more about what could be done to him by the the "yob culture".
We had an incident where a lad (16) had tried to take my sons bike - but not only that had thumped him and then kicked him, it was only because the bike was new that my son went and fought back (admittedly he has always been a big lad!). So he comes home, with bike in tears - well my hubby saw red - off they went down the town and yes, hubby did go at this lad scared the s*** out of him! Hubby them promptly went to the police station and told them what he had done.....all the police said were good on you sir, we could do with a bit more of that but if the lad comes in you will have to be arrested.
The problem with all of this is that it makes people scared to go out, kids can't have what I would consider a "normal" childhood, old people are frightened to open their doors, you get no respect at all.
Anyway here we are today - we always have a house full of kids around - all come in a shake my husbands hand and kiss me, they all have manners, they all make a lot of noise, yes we hear them swearing and going on as young lads do, play some awful music, yes they all turn up on awful sounding mopeds (including our own!), they all go "hang" on a Saturday night in the local town, they probably drink a bit, party a bit and there are usually a couple of girls hanging around - but is that not "normal"?
I ultimately am not worried about fights, binge drinking, drugs in the same ways as I was in the UK. I will walk up to the shop when it's dark nowadays without being scared of a gang of kids, they are far more likely to accost me to say hello and kiss me, rather than hurl abuse!
We didn't live in a huge city, it was just a run of the mill market town, nothing grand, lots of coutryside, yet still I wouldn't go back if you paid me now!!